A Service of Celebration and Thanksgiving for the life of Clare Marie Pullinger Friday 13th March 2015 Wessex Vale Crematorium Processional Music: Fxxxkin Perfect - Pink The Welcome and Introduction Clare’s sudden and unexpected passing came as a massive shock to her immediate family and her wider circle of both friends and virtual friends.Many have been shocked by her death, and there have been many tributes made online recalling the warmth of her love and friendship along with some of the crazy things that she said and done. In life we all take different directions as part of our life journey and one day, your roads will meet and you will be reunited with Clare and continue your eternal journey together Life is but a stopping place, A pause in what's to be, A resting place along the road, to sweet eternity. We all have different journeys Different paths along the way, We all were meant to learn some things, but never meant to stay... Our destination is a place, Far greater than we know. For some the journeys quicker, For some the journeys slow. And when the journey finally ends, We'll claim a great reward, And find an everlasting peace, Together with the lord THE GIFT OF LOVE Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. WE DIDNT GET TO SAY GOODBYE We Didn't get to say goodbye We're devastated that you're gone We'd have done anything to keep you here with us Right here where you belong We didn't know that life would take Such as unexpected path That you'd be separated from us so soon Heartbreaking reality we struggle to grasp And bitter though our losing you has been And so profound is the pain that we bear We're sadder still at no chance for goodbye No final expression of our deep love and care Yet believing that you're not too far away That your Spirit still lingers quite near We'll say our goodbyes in our words and thoughts Trusting that each one you'll hear First know that you are loved in the truest of ways So deep that only our hearts can give expression You'll be forever surrounded by our love For we're sending it straight up to Heaven Please know that you'll be cherished by each of us For your example and kindness we'll treasure We understand now how your life was a gift That was meant to bless us forever And though we'll miss you terribly We want your Spirit to be free Free to enjoy all the wonders of Heaven Not bound to us in our grief So watch over us with happiness from Heaven For we'll remember you with mem'ries so sweet And we'll bravely endure till you're with us again When our hearts will be healed and complete For surely one day we'll be together again In God's arms and in Heaven with you For death cannot conquer a love that's as strong As the love that we all have for you POEM- SHE IS GONE You can shed tears that Clare is gone, or you can smile because he has lived. You can close your eyes and pray that she'll come back,or you can open your eyes and see all she's left. Your heart can be empty because you can't see her or you can be full of the love you have shared. You can turn your back on tomorrow and live yesterday,or you can be happy for tomorrow because of yesterday. You can remember Clare and only that she's gone, or you can cherish her memory and let it live on. You can cry and close your mind, be empty and turn your back, or you can do what Clare would want: smile, open your eyes, love and go on. A TRIBUTE AND REFLECTION OF CLARE'S LIFE Now is the time to bring to mind all the memories that you have of Clare, how she came into your life. What did she do that had such an impact on your lives, how will you remember her now and in the future, and to lock those memories safely in your hearts forever. Time for Reflection Under the shadows - Rae Morris POEM-MEMORIES OF THE HEART Feel no guilt in laughter, Clare knows how much you care. Feel no sorrow in a smile That she’s not here to share. You cannot grieve forever, she would not want you to. she’d hope that you would carry on The way you always do. So talk about the good times And the ways you showed you cared. The days you spent together, All the happiness you shared. Let the memories surround you, A word someone may say Will suddenly recapture A time, an hour, a day. That brings Clare back as clearly As though she were still here, And fills you with the feelings That she is always near. For if you keep those memories You will never be apart And Clare will live forever Locked safely in your heart A TIME FOR PRIVATE PRAYER AND REFLECTION We now take a few moments for private prayer and reflection To remember all those who mourn today To give thanks for all those who support those who grieve For the work of the British Heart Foundation For the gift of love For family and friends THE LORDS PRAYER Our Father, which art in heaven, Hallowed be thy Name. Thy Kingdom come. Thy will be done in earth, As it is in heaven. Give us this day our daily bread. And forgive us our trespasses, As we forgive them that trespass against us. And lead us not into temptation, But deliver us from evil. For thine is the kingdom, The power, and the glory, For ever and ever. Amen POEM- AFTERGLOW I’d like the memory of me to be a happy one. I’d like to leave an afterglow of smiles when life is done. I’d like to leave an echo whispering softly down the ways. Of happy times and laughing times and bright and sunny days. I’d like the tears of those who grieve, to dry before the sun. Of happy memories that I leave when life is done THE COMMENDATION Please don’t mourn for me I’m still here, though you don’t see. I’m right by your side each night and day And within your heart I long to stay. My body is gone but I’m always near I’m everything you feel, see, or hear. My spirit is free, but I’ll never depart As long as you keep me alive in your heart. I’ll never wander out of your sight I’m the brightest star on a warm summer night. I’ll never be beyond your reach I’m the warm moist sand when you’re at the beach. I’m the colorful leaves when winter comes round And the pure white snow that blankets the ground. I’m the beautiful flowers of which you’re so fond The clear cool water in a quiet pond. I’m the first bright blossom you’ll see in the spring The first warm raindrop that April will bring. I’m the first ray of light when the sun starts to shine And you’ll see that the face in the moon is mine. When you start thinking there’s no one to love you Talk to me and I will listen. I’ll whisper my answer through the leaves on the trees And you’ll feel my presence in the soft summer breeze. I’m the hot salty tears that flow when you weep And the beautiful dreams that come while you sleep. I’m the smile you see on a stranger’s face. Just look for me…I’m everyplace. THE COMMITTAL We have been remembering with love and affection the life of Clare and now in sorrow, but without fear we commit her to eternal rest Into the freedom of wind and sunshine We let you go Into the dance of the stars and the planets We let you go Into the wind's breath and the hands of the star maker We let you go Clare, now is the time for you to go from this world Peace be with you today and forever more CONTINUING THE JOURNEY Time for me to go now, I won't say goodbye; Look for me in rainbows, way up in the sky. In the morning sunrise when all the world is new, Just look for me and love me, as you know I loved you. Time for me to leave you, I won't say goodbye; Look for me in rainbows, high up in the sky. In the evening sunset, when all the world is through, Just look for me and love me, and I'll be close to you. It won't be forever, the day will come and then My loving arms will hold you, when we meet again. Time for us to part now, we won't say goodbye; Look for me in rainbows, shining in the sky. Every waking moment, and all your whole life through Just look for me and love me, as you know I loved you. Just wish me to be near you, And I'll be there with you. THE FAREWELL The memories and love I leave behind are yours to keep. I have found my rest, turned my face to the sun and now I sleep Recessional Music: Goodbye Little Darlin' Goodbye – Johnny Cash This service was written by Paul Burrows-Gibson for the family The service was led by Graham Deacon on behalf of Paul Burrows-Gibson